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Your right, I do feel better throughout my school week… Because I get to
see this certain girl… She gives me the will to do things again, but I
found out last night she doesn’t like me the way I like her… I want her
so bad because I have my happiness back when I’m around her, she is my
happiness…
Hello Noah, I dont find what you say hard to believe as it is definitely
not the first time ive heard it, however I do find it hard to do. So my
question is: Do you think medicine is obsolete? Ive taken many medications
with little to no success. So then is it the medication that is either
working or not, or is it our thoughts about the medicine? Also is the same
true for anxiety? Thank you.
Some people die because of cancer. I’ll die because of depression.
Just thoughts – don’t believe them. Yes I understand. The silly thoughts
are probably caused by brain chemistry, how do I change the brain chemistry
so I don’t have the silly thoughts in the first place?
Thank you Noah. You seem like a very smart intellectual. You want to help
others and your pro-active at as I am. This is a rarity. One thing I will
note, after watching your video, is that there is a multitude of reasons
why people are depressed in this day and age. Today, we’re living in a
world of bad tidings and people are just swarmed in to situations out of
there control.
Thank You Noah,this is the first time I have listened to any of your
videos,This one video put depression into perception more than all the
other I have listened to, thanks for the insight ,It helped me get a grip
on what is going on.
Thank you for making this video! It helps. I have a question, though…
What bothers me or “depresses”me is the lack of meaning. I am on a quest to
find the meaning of life, or at least the meaning of my life, but it seams
there isn’t a universal truth. Is it just pursuing happiness? Feeling
grateful for having the opportunity to live? How do I find this inner
peace?
it helps a little but i still dont feel happy with myself i will try more
ways thanks for your help :)
I feel like crying and wanna just walk away from the life I’m in right now.
Wanna start over and be happy ;_;
Sorry but this is just not how my depression works. It’s not thought, then
belief, then feelings, then depression. Belief has nothing to do with it.
It’s basically having a condition – depression (I always say I *have* it,
never I *am* it); then symptoms (usually sadness /pain/ fatigue/ lack of
motivation or interest/, and rarely knowing why); then trying to function
through the fog this creates; then thoughts (failure/, inadequacy/,
unworthiness/, unlovable/, misunderstood/ ); then feelings (frustration/,
despair/) and quite often, for me, intellectualizing. Because depression
can distort my perception of events and intents. Thoughts don’t cause my
depression. Thoughts are responses to the symptoms I suffer due to
depression.
im sick of girls saying they want a decent man, then never giving me a
chance, especially since im not disgusting looking. im just not hot.
….I LOVE this man!!! “therapy” while I get dressed for the day!!
lol…..thanks for all these messages….xo
Hey man I really thought this video made some excellent points and prolly
helped a lot of people but it didn’t really help me. This is why. I don’t
just get random thoughts of hating myself and that I feel useless I have
more of an empty feeling inside. When I wake up I look forward to nothing
in the day. Not a single thing maybe the closest thing currently is fantasy
football. I wake up and think I’m off to school to see a ton of people I
hate do a bunch of pointless work or none at all if I’m having one of those
days and then I got a long 2 1/2 hr practice directly after then I come
home exhausted eat dinner watch tv for a bit and then go to sleep and
repeat. I’m stuck in a rut and there is nowhere to go. Do you know what
it’s like to wake up and not feel motivated? I typically feel today is
going to be no different from the last till I die. I feel that humanity
would not be different even a little bit if I was just absent. Yes my
family is not rich but I’d say living in a suburb in america is a privilage
and that there are people in a much worse situation than me but thats the
problem. I havent earned a single thing in my life its mostly been handed
to me and its boring. I haven’t achieved a single thing I feel as I have no
purpose even being here. It’s not that I’m weak or worthless it’s just a
pit of emptiness that should be filled but can’t be like a piece of life
I’m missing.
I noticed in the desc you said your an author which I assume you like
being. What if you couldn’t be an author. What would you feel if you have
no hobbies? or friends? OR ANY REASON TO GET UP FOR THAT MATTER. If I
didn’t get up life would just go on without me and honestly it wouldnt be
much different.(Already know your response “find something in life you like
to do and occupy yourself” I’ve been trying for 6 years take a guess on how
its going so far)
I’ve also got anger problems and depression and I’m only 12 and I want to
die
Thank you for this video! I have bookmarked this, for times when I have my
symptoms return, and I may meditate on my feelings at that moment. You are
doing a great service! Thank you again. :)
My problem is that I don’t recognize these thoughts when they arise.
Looking back at all my depressive phases, I can see that they probably were
caused by thoughts. But now that I am currently in a phase like this, I
hardly ever notice when the thoughts arise. Even at the times I do notice
the thoughts, how can I tell *myself* not to believe *myself*? I can only
see things through my own perspective.I also feel like the depression sucks
all my energy, and then I can’t make the effort to deal with the depression
itself.
I don’t think there is much wrong with my life at all. My life is
aesthetically really good. I think I was just born with depression. I know
what I want, I know I just want peace and happiness. But I can’t do what
you say. I have tried, and it has never worked.
Depression isn’t me. Thank you for helping..
I have most of the symptoms of depression yet I feel like I have it very
mild, I get it when I start something new, in this case I have just started
University and I am worried that I am not gunna be able to cope with work,
find it difficult etc, once I get this out of the way I am a pretty happy
guy but this feeling of not knowing is something I hate experiencing, it
happened to me last year to the point I nearly dropped out of college,
anything I can do to stop this feeling, I hate feeling like this
I always feel like crying because my family have always been very
judgemental towards me Im also picked on in school.. I feel like just float
away from everything and everyone if i was strong enough to just end my
life but im not so ill just have to suffer through my life ):
I’m a soldier in the us army and everything I do ends, regardless of
planning, in pain and misery. I tried to save someone by joining the
military she died January 2013 I let her dowm. Now I’m stuck and getting
butt fucked by it with no way out. I’m angry because she passed away on
me. I’m angry because I have no reason to be here. My plan B for my life
was always to kill myself from the age of 10. I can’t do this life in a
way everyone else does. I don’t understand laughter, I don’t understand
other’s blind happiness. My vagina is full of sand I’m told but every time
I have something good going for me, fate comes in to fuck up my shit. I’m
smart and handsome, sure, I’m told but I feel stupid for every movement
I’ve done that got me to here. What am I going to fucking do after the
military….there is always plan B.
Noah, do you have time to talk via web cam? I have questions and would like
to ask you some of them. I especially have questions about the content of
this video. please let me know if you have time.
I wish I could start my life over again and your video helped a little
Clearly you have never been Depressed.
Thank you so very much for this amazing video. It helped me feel way better
:)
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“You can negate the clinical stuff when you get your psychology into shape”
- Psychology *is* a clinical practice. What you’re describing now, as
incendiary and fatuous as it is, is arguably a form of extremely warped
cognitive behavioral therapy. Except for without the backdrop of
credentials or empathy but OK. Anyways, perpetuating this myth that people
who are depressed are “self-absorbed” is the *actual* insanity here. When I
get depressed, I often have intrusive thoughts about people I love getting
hurt or dying, drifting away, or just growing numb to and disinterested in
me because I am too dysfunctional to maintain relationships with them. I go
to places where I see people who are disenfranchised and everything about
that environment hurts and effects me, I watch movies or documentaries that
are morbid and become overly fixated. I’m not ungrateful, I’m not
self-absorbed, I’m shut out to the light and can only see darkness, the
lens through which I see the world is blurred and out of focus and there
are any number of reasons for why that is so.
Frankly, I think *your* psychology sucks because only someone who is an
EXTREME narcissist would claim to have the answers you do. I think you
might be projecting.
This garbage is anti-science. I’ll never call for a video to be banned, no
matter how uninformed, but this is the kind of drivel that punches people
who have learned “bad psychology” (lol) aka toxic invalidation and think
watching an opportunist asshole will help the situation. This is a classic
example of why discovering the roots of and treating real mental illness,
whether chemical or environmental in its origin, is so difficult. Snake
oil salesmen like this throw meaningless terms at us and try to make us
feel worse about ourselves. “You’re an egotistical, self-absorbed,
sniveling piece of shit, but I’m not actually putting you down!” I
sincerely hope this guy is back to making pizzas for a living.
I feel depressed and this guy says I’m a selfish dick. That’s not nice. >:C
Nah my depression is because I am stuck in a place that is horrible to live
in and I have no knowledge of when I could leave so I could be here
forever. What I need is painkilling meds (anti-depressants) to deal with
the suicidal feelings while I wait for me to get a job, and have enough
money to leave. I don’t think mindfulness really addresses depression… it
just addresses sadness and anxiety about the self.
dude i meditate n it works but when ur back into reality i feel like my old
self again just confused of who i am n why i am i alive
Dear Actualized.org. Please try some medication-induced depression and try
to snap out of it. Then remove this medication. It’s a very ironic
experience. Second step: Don’t judge people on their brain chemistry. Third
step: Don’t judge people. Forth step: Don’t judge yourself for beeing a
dumbass. I’m with you. (SHHIiit, I said I, I’m one of the self-absorbed
guys watching your videos. NOOoow way I’m just interested in depression…)
When I let go of my ego.. I feel dead and see life as an illusion. Sleep
more then I’m awake…& become more depressed.
I actually feel a low level of depression because Naomi died in the TV
series of skins.
Now what if you know that it’s your own mind creating your depression, and
you just want to try and break out of this routine of thoughts.. what then?
I get depressed after watching another “hey, the problem is easy to handle,
here is the secret of the universe” tirade. You NLP eggheads do the same
cheap thing. To those all people being sad, I’ll tell you the truth. Even
if the people are living on apartments today instead of caves, the root of
the violent nature of life didn’t pass but just transformed into a form of
civilization. People still do violent things to others, society make a
certain pressure on the individual, and even you have internet, being
isolated and alone still very easy. If the price of a man is proportional
to the thickness of his wallet, the value of the society is still in the
level of a cavemen perception. It’s easy to make a call to someone living
10.000 km away, but it’s so rare if you get a “I love you” call. That’s it,
life sucks so much, the solution also is certain, but it’s not up to an
individual thinking he’s a loser reading a self-development best seller
filled with cheap sentences. It’s up to the society to change the life,
make everything nice. You can read thousands of self-development books and
then you get high right? But none of them will bring you a beautiful lover
or a sweet family, and even if you think you get them as you become a
different person, then (due to the dostoyevski facts) you will be the first
person that destructs what you own as it costs you a change. People need to
be loved as they are, need to be accepted as who they are, and society will
crush every person that intercepts, which make me think of, the world is
constructed by a badass gangster leader that never talks with you, and
never satisfied. I say this, happiness is the easiest photo that you can
see anyplace, the easiest thing that can be lived thru. However, if every
individual is treated as if they were losers unless they behave like a
cheap superstar like said on those SD books. No, everyone need peace, love,
and accept each other and the only cure is being a honest person instead of
fucking up the ass to those who you love, making trust experiments and
measuring the scala of love, which ends up with heart broken on both sides.
What I’m trying to tell is, if a person is unhappy, depressed or whatever,
that is based on a real trauma which also means they are ready to equalize
it with a real love, a real happiness. However, if SD people always says
“hey, why you seem so sad, be happy!”, this clowns saying something wrong.
Being unhappy cause you to be aware of what’s the lost, missed and desired
image that which is the only thing will make you happy. If you are a happy
clown who is not being aware of his/hers deep sadness, then there’s no way
to go in life. But if you know what will make you happy, what is the lost
thing that you search for (even there’s a big possibility that you won’t
find even if you gave all your life), then that unhappiness state is more
meaningful as a comparison of being an-always-smiling-asshole.
I hate those who try to formulate life, life is not something that easy, if
so, then it does not worth living.
He looks like the devil. I can’t believe him.
wow. ive been researching depression for my term paper and came across your
vid. dude, you are no help to even the novice depressive. you clearly point
out WHAT their problem MAY be, but no advive on what to actually do. you
sound like you are trying to convince yourself that you are not depressed
or trying to fix yourself. im not trying to knock you, this may be your way
of trying to heal, but I must tell you this is shit and you really should
stop. anyone reading this, PLEASE GO TO A PROFESSIONAL. YOU CAN NOT “THINK”
YOURSELF OUT OF DEPRESSION.
He is culminating all depression into one type. True, many people have this
type, but in comparison to the whole it is minimal. He seems to have this
type and is working on it, but please understand that it is a moderate and
simple depression, that he is convinced that all have. The major depression
numbers are because of neglect, sexual abuse, and most of all physical and
emotional abuse, causing intimidation and resulting in extremely low self
worth. The answer to this is love. Just learn to love yourself, and your
self worth. YOU ATRE LOVABLE AND RESPECTABLE!!!
My mind is probably my worst enemy. I wander into negative thoughts a lot.
And sadly I’ve gotten used to. So much that it feels actually more normal
to have those instead of anything positive. I don’t know how to react to
people either thanking me or complimenting me. It’s weird to say this but I
would rather be insulted than complemented. I know its because I have zero
percent of self esteem. And it feels out of the norm for somebody to say
anything positive to me.
I wouldn’t say I’m trying to play a victim when I say this. I grew up being
degraded by a step father and a lot of other people. For awhile I did blame
them for it, but as I gotten older I realize my mind got so warped into
thinking that’s okay, that I deserve it.
I’ve read things that say tell yourself everyday positive things. But if
you don’t actually believe them yourself, it really feels no different than
lying. And I can’t fool myself. Also if you fool yourself into thinking; it
just gets more warped as your pretty lies contrast with reality.
I was on anxiety pill for about a year. I felt actually happy until well my
hair started falling out and it made me gain 50 pounds. So here I am from a
year ago, going to the gym almost everyday trying to still take the weight
off. Although I feel like I look better now, I actually do not feel that
way. Even when I was skinny I still felt fat/ugly.
So I’m not really sure what else to do at this point. Lately I just try to
keep myself occupied by either listening to music or playing video games.
Because the second I’m not focused on something. I become my own bully.
What do you think about Stoicism?
Maybe to much loss has caused me to feel powerless and thus depressed…so
I don’t try to control everything… But then where is my purpose? And if I
find a purpose and agin it’s taken from me…I’m back to not wanting to
care… I have an idealistic life I put in the money the time the work and
it was sabotage but I got off my soapbox and tried again and again it was
taken from me I’ve been doing with depression my whole life… It seems
like when I was a kid things are easier because my life load and away were
I got what I wanted am not talking about material wealth of money but I
think I’ve been broken too many times how many times does a person get up
after being beat down before they realize The definition of insanity is
doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results
thinking the same when I try to stride and strive and look for certain ways
I want my life to be and they get sabotage sooner or later a person can get
tired of it and that’s why am now sleeping 18 hours a day and when I try to
get up to make my life do I wanted to be a get sabotaged again so of course
it’s going to make me depressed
this is great stuff, really helps, thanks man! Is there any way I can buy
a cd/dvd or anything so I can listen to you via mp3 player etc?
Will getting your psychology in check also eliminate anhedonia? How will
putting yourself in the right mindset give you the ability to feel pleasure
again?
I had depression a year ago, and its coming back again. I am not happy with
my values like being slow, and my own self- image. I critize myself because
I don’t live to the expectations of others. I go to a Christian church, but
I feel limited because I can’t be myself, and I am worried about what
others will say and will get mad over me for doing the wrong things. The
people there are okay. I am not saying I am going to do bad things, but to
enjoy my life I want it to be. I know I have to work hard to change
especially my ego.
I was diagnosed depressed and I went to a therapist several times and she
didn’t help at all. I talked about how I was feeling and she even said that
she doesn’t know what to say to me. I stopped going since she only nodded
most of the time and I don’t think she understood. My parents don’t believe
in pills solving anything and they never truly believed that I am depressed
even though a couple of doctors have said I am. Now I am feeling so
helpless and alone. I hate thinking how I do and it really scares me. I’m
worried and I don’t know who to turn to
Like others I often do this to myself. But when trying to leave the rut I
enter another one. Why should I work and provide the government false
system etc. Why can’t I just do what I choose. They with the money. They
break laws and make them. Why can’t I? Being born inequality breeds
depression. I’m forbidden to serve myself by law. And must slave for this
stupid system. If I had the courage I’d opt out.
this has helped a lot! will be watching these for a long time.
inspirational. i truly believe in what you say! your way of explaining this
is fantastic. peace
its quite amazing how Buddha(and possibly the hindu masters he learned
from) already figured all of these things out without resorting to science.
Just common sense and meditation
my depression is clinical and it also runs in my family